There once was a girl named Whiny….
Her friends told her to get off her hinny
Just leave the dude
And improve her mood
So she could be happy, finally!
That was my attempt at poetry. It was based on a true story.
I used to follow this girl on Twitter. She used Twitter as a forum to vent about her boyfriend whenever he ticked her off. She would basically come on when she was angry at her boyfriend and b*tch about whatever he did that ticked her off. Now her followers got tired of this and told her to leave him. Based on her tweets, they deduced that they were in a toxic relationship and that in the best interest of her son, she should leave him.
She didn’t leave him.
She just stopped tweeting.
That upset me.
Personally, I don’t think she was in a toxic relationship. I just think that she needed an outlet to vent. Her tweets were a part of a whole. They were a reflection of something that was going on at the moment not the entire relationship. No relationship is perfect. People argue, get annoyed, and fight. Those that say they don’t, are lying. She just needed to vent and people jumped on her.
That got me thinking.
If you read the last couple blog posts about Millhouse and I, you could see that they are not very upbeat. I am going on about his friendship with serial cheaters and my fears of infidelity and he is criticizing my clothes, purse and overload of comfort.
If this was Twitter and my posts were tweets, we would be told to break up. We’re obviously unhappy and the love is gone. But that’s not the case. We are evolving. Our relationship is evolving. We are always in a constant state of growth. And our marriage is moving into a new territory and I just need to articulate what I am feeling.
Do these changes mean that we are ended towards the end? I highly doubt that. It means that we are going to argue, fight and disagree and I need somewhere I can hash out my feelings without judgment or criticism.
But after what happened to that girl on Twitter, I don’t think that place exists.