5 Best Decisions Of My Adult Life

These are not in order of importance but in order of occurrence.

1. Not freaking out when Beanz told me she was pregnant – every couple of months when the moon is aligned just right, there is no cheesecake or chocolate available and PMS has turned her into a ticked off dragon lady; Beanz storms into my room and yells at me for not reacting when she told me she was pregnant.  She is usually upset that the most I said when she told me she was pregnant was “OK, cool” and continued doing what I was doing.  She expected more and I didn’t react the way she wanted expected.  She wasn’t pleased with that but here’s the deal.  I had the option of freaking out, I chose not to.  I knew that I could have yelled, cried, and sulked.  I didn’t.  My reasoning was that she was going to get that from my parents, relatives and small minded people out there.  She didn’t need that from me.  She needed an ally.  I chose to be her ally.  I chose to support her; by not reacting.  I figured that by not having her stress out about me and standing by her no matter what happened meant that she would be able to deal with a really big change in her life.  And she did.
2. Saying yes when Millhouse asked me out – When Millhouse first saw me he thought I had a nice ass.  I thought he was a geek.  When he asked me out, I laughed.  Then he called me back two days later and asked me out again, I laughed.  This went on for months.  I thought that Millhouse was nice but I was with someone else at the time.  That someone else messed me up.  He told me that I was ugly, stupid and no one but him would ever love me.  I believed him.  I kept saying no to Millhouse not because I didn’t like him .  I kept saying no because I figured that if he saw me up close and spoke to me for too long that he would realize just how ugly and stupid I was.  Millhouse kept calling though.  He kept asking me out.  He wouldn’t give up so after three months of constant phone calls, I said yes.  10 years and 2 boys later, Millhouse still thinks that I am beautiful and smart and he still thinks that I have a nice ass.
3. Cutting my “friends” out of my life – I was really close to two sisters for high school and university.  I didn’t consider them friends, I thought of them as family.  I loved them as though they were my sisters.  The feeling wasn’t mutual.  This became painfully apparent when I was planning my wedding.  They weren’t happy for me and I was so stressed with all the drama going on that I didn’t enjoy planning my wedding.  And I find looking at my wedding pictures to be upsetting at times.  After I got married I decided to cut them out of my life.  It was a slow and painful process for me.  I missed them.  I was lonely.  I felt abandoned.  And even though I still miss the friendship, I don’t miss them.  The process of expelling them from my life isn’t complete yet.  A part of me still clings to the hope that we can resolve everything and establish a real friendship.  But with every passing year, that part gets smaller and smaller.  I am hoping that small part disappears soon.
4. Having Maks and Mat – I love my boys.  They are my life.  I may be sleep deprived, and suffering from serious mommy brain but I wouldn’t change having them in my life for all the cookies, cakes, chocolate and ice cream in the world.
5. Asking to be demoted – professionally I committed career suicide when I asked to be demoted two years ago.  Personally, it was the best career decision I ever made.  I was not and am not ready to dedicate the time and effort that is required to be a manager in my company.  Midnight conference calls to China, crazy deadlines and 6 hour meetings seemed glamorous when I first got the position but after experiencing that lifestyle, I hated it.  I wanted the freedom to do my own thing.  I wanted the ability to turn off my blackberry at night and not be reprimanded for it.  I wanted to leave work at work when I came home and I couldn’t do that as a manager.  So for the sake of my sanity and my family, I walked away and never looked back.